18 Steps To Creating Positivity In Your Life

The holidays are a lovely and delightful time of the year where we get to spend time with those that are most dear to us.  At the beginning of the holiday you are filled with joy and excitement.

The holidays can also be fraught with upset, disappointment and hurt feelings. There are many opportunities to get our buttons pushed and, before you know it, you revert to old negative patterns.

The negative pathways in our brain can be triggered and cause you to go into worry, confusion, resentments and regrets.

Negativity is easy to slip into and creates a biochemical reaction in your body. Negative thoughts:

  • Slow down the brain’s ability to function
  • Makes it harder to process thoughts
  • Impedes cognition and will consume you

Only you can press your own buttons and get your feelings hurt or feel insulted.  You are the initiator of your own pain.

It is the easy path to feel like someone is doing something to you and the problem is outside of yourself. It is easier to blame other people than to turn it around and look at yourself.

You get to decide how quickly you want to pull yourself out of it.

It is not our fault what happened to us as kids. However, it is our responsibility as adults to heal and transform our lives from the inside out.

If I can do it. You can do it too.

Remember, everything that happens to you is an opportunity to turn it around and say this is happening for me to learn how to grow, evolve, and expand to the next level.

Positive and negative emotions look different in the brain. Research found that someone who experiences positive emotions, such as joy or gratitude, has a much higher activity of happiness.

It requires something of you to change your ways, create new pathways, and change the vibe you put out in the world.  The good news is that it is possible.  New research on Neuroplasticity has shown that the brain can learn new patterns at any age.

Some health benefits that positive thinking may provide include:

  • Increased life span.
  • Boosted immune system and greater resistance to the common cold.
  • Lower rates of depression and levels of distress.
  • Increased resilience.
  • Better psychological and physical well-being.
  • Better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease.
  • Increased happiness and satisfaction.

18 Things To Do To Rewire Your Brain

Let’s get started today practicing 18 things you can do to rewire your brain for the positivity of life.

  1. Make positive thinking a habit.

  2. Change your vibe. Put out positive energy and see what happens.

  3. Choose to live in the positive celebration of life.

  4. Spend 5 minutes looking for positives.

  5. Spend 5 minutes journaling all the positives around you.

  6. Move from being hurt by someone to feeling compassion for them.

  7. Be present to the love that is all around you.

  8. Look at what there is to celebrate in this moment.

  9. Acknowledge your personal growth.

  10. Practice random acts of kindness.

  11. Go out of your own way to make a difference for someone.

  12. Take time to appreciate someone close to you.

  13. Take time to celebrate all your wins for this year.

  14. Use words that evoke strength and success. For example, “I am winning at having an awesome time with my family and friends”.

  15. Choose joy. Every day when you wake up you make the choice to be happy and notice the joy in your life.

  16. Every morning say 10 things you are grateful for in your life.

  17. Enjoy a nature walk, go swimming, or exercise.

  18. Laugh for 30 seconds to one minute every day.

TEAM Performance can help you and your organization create more positivity in your life and business.     You can start the new year off right with a great understanding and appreciation of your co-workers.

To get started, I invite you to click here and do a workplace profile: Everything DiSC Workplace® Profile

Remember, what you focus on gets manifested.  The energy flows where your attention goes.

So let’s create a new way to be this holiday and go into 2018 ready to soar.  You can do it.

Do the 18 Things To Do To Rewire Your Brain every day for 66 days and see how your life expands as you enjoy living more in the positive.

The choice is yours.

I look forward to hearing all the positive things that come out of you taking this on this holiday and through 2018.

The best is yet to be. Let’s rock 2018 and have a year better than you can imagine!

Ellen Miller

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3 Principles of Win-Win Relationships


Win-win relationships are not easy and they don’t happen overnight—they take extra time to cultivate.

A win-win is when both sides experience a positive outcome and it could possibly turn out better than either side can imagine.

A win-lose is when only one side sees the positive outcome.

Undelivered and withheld communications can have disastrous outcomes on relationships—it costs you close connections, intimacy, and productivity. It takes time to build win-win relationships. It is best to take on the attitude of what can I do to make a positive deposit into a relationship and build a connection. Read more

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8 Things Successful People Do

8 Things Successful People Do

What does it mean to be successful?

Being successful is about bringing your best self into every area of life. It is about consistently being able to expand and grow into the person you always imagined you could be and want to be. Read more

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Understanding DiSC Personality Types

I Just Don't Get my Coworker

I hear it all the time:

“I just don’t get my co-worker or my boss.”

“My teammate is always ticking me off. What do I do about it?”

Can you relate? Read more

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10 Tips to Help You Stop Artificial Harmony from Causing Havoc on Your Team

Artificial Harmony


It is the silent killer of effective team work in families and work. It robs us of time, energy and real connection with other human beings.

Artificial harmony is described as “making nice”. That is when we act like we are getting along yet there are resentments, frustration, and grudges being held against teammates and family members.

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5 Behaviors that Make Teams Great

5 Behaviors That Make Teams Great

What is your biggest team complaint?

One of the biggest complaints that I have addressed in the workplace during the past 30 years is that people do not feel safe speaking up and trusting others.  They hide their true selves and feelings from others for fear of being ridiculed or ostracized. Read more

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Create a Rockstar Culture: 10 Steps to Get People to Give Their Best

10 Steps to creating a Rockstar Culture

“Having a mission-driven, culture-driven business is the key to being successful.”
– Amy Bohutinsky (Chief Operating Officer at Zillow Group)

What does “Culture-driven” mean?

When you help bring out the best in others there is more happiness, higher morale and productivity in the workplace—in other words, you create a culture that helps good people become great. And, a culture that cultivates great people also drives a successful business.

Creating a rock star culture takes time, patience, and energy. Before an organization can change its culture, it is essential to first understand the heartbeat of its current culture. It is critical to measure the current reality to create a roadmap for culture change.

To start, ask yourself what actions and new behaviors can you take on this year to support people in giving their best? Here are 10 steps to get your started … Read more

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Unlock the Secret to Happiness

Gratitude leads to happiness, psychological and physical well-being.

Gratitude is the fast track to happiness and positive well-being. It can be a natural antidepressant. According to studies in neuroscience, there are certain circuits that are activated and strengthened when we write down and share our gratitude.

Robert Emmons and Mike McCullough are two leading researchers on the topic of gratitude. Here is what they found: In one experiment, the group of people who kept weekly gratitude journals had significantly better results on a range of psychological and physical well-being measures than the people in either of two comparison groups. The people writing in the gratitude journal exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week than the other two groups (who recorded hassles in one group or neutral life events in the other). Journaling is truly beneficial in so many ways. Oprah says that starting an a gratitude journal is the single most powerful decisions that she has ever made.

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10 tips to Increase Vulnerability-Based Trust in Life and in the Workplace

Being vulnerable and truly open with another human being is where the best teamwork and connections happen. Patrick Lencioni, author of Five Dysfunctions of a Team, explains vulnerability-based trust as the willingness to be completely open with one another and confident that your team member’s intentions are good. Vulnerability-based trust lies in the heart of high functioning, cohesive teams. Being vulnerable can be difficult and frightening. Brené Brown, author of “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead,” shares this about being vulnerable:
Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” — Brené Brown

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My Ego Said No, Don’t Do It.

Vulnerability is one of the most challenging traits to develop. Patrick Lencioni, author of The Five Behaviors of a Cohesive Team, writes that in order to grow and evolve, one of the most critical behaviors that leaders and teams must develop is vulnerability trust.

In theory it sounds easy, but in reality it is very hard to do. Exposing ourselves to being vulnerable is often difficult because our ego says, “No way, no how. I am not going to do that and you can’t make me. I won’t show others THAT part of me.”

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